I start this by saying I truly believe positive things happen to positive people. Not to say when negative things happen it’s our fault. It’s life and shit happens.
I was heckled the other day because of my belief system. A woman in an MS group asked me if my beliefs have cured my MS. I answered no they had not. After reading this woman’s negative response, I thought long and hard about why she felt the need to be so negative. I mean I wasn’t telling her she HAD to have the same beliefs as me. I was merely stating what has gotten me through. Not to beat a dead horse, but it made me think about our way of looking at life and all of the ups and downs.
I’ve been known to say ” If it wasn’t for the valley’s I wouldn’t be able to enjoy the peaks.” I’m not saying I don’t have bad days, we all do. But to stay in that frame of mind is terrible for our health, it’s poison for the MSer. Did being in the valley’s of my life bring me pleasure? No they didn’t. Did I learn something while there? Yes I did, with every bad experience/ hard time I took something and tried to make it a learning experience. Do I wish life was all rainbows and cotton candy? ABSO-FREAKEN-LUTELY. But its not, it’s our choice if we make life a negative experience or a positive experience.
There are times I could have laid in bed and cried for days. The majority of my family have passed, this greatly saddens me. But that is part of life and none of us are getting out alive. I’ll see them one day and that brings me comfort. I’ve been sick for many, many years. I suffer pain daily, I can’t sleep most nights. I’ve lost my career and pretty much the ability to drive, I’ve lost my independence that I greatly valued. I make a conscious effort every day not to let those things get the better of me.
Can I be a grumpy Guss and get cranky? Yes I’m actually known for my smart mouth and snarky comments. But when I look at my life I see the positives. I could still walk (numerous dr’s have told me i’d lose the ability). I can still talk even when I have cog fog and get confused, I can form a sentence. I have abilities that some of us MSer’s don’t so for that I’m thankful. That’s why I see things in a positive light.
Now as you all know I’m not one of those hippie chics, not all flowery and crap. But I do what’s in my best interest and having faith and being as positive as I can, gets me through. What does negativity get you?
Think about that for a moment:
- Does it make you situation better= NO
- Does it help your health= NO
- Does it bring you profit= NO
- Does it make people want to be around you= NO
While being positive doesn’t fix all of these situations, it does have some benefits to our health and mental wellbeing.
Don’t get me wrong, I know life is hard and I also know depression is a very REAL illness. I just look back at my very hard at times in life and know that if I didn’t look at things the way I do, I’d be in a lot worse shape with my MS. I laugh at everything I can, I laugh at myself a lot! I could cry about falling or my vision getting squirrely, or aspirating and choking on my food, but instead I make a joke out of it. It’s my coping technique and it’s worked so far.
Hopefully this doesn’t get anyones undies in a wad. I’m writing this in hopes to help any newbie MSer’s see they can take something positive out of all the experiences they may go through with this disease. Keep it as positive as you can for your own health if for anything. Cry if you need to (we all need to get it out every now and again) Your cup isn’t half empty, it’s half full!