The person who made me the mother and wife I am today

My mom is a very special woman her name is Libe Roldan. She is the woman that raised me like her own. The parent I owe for growing up learning how to be a wife and mom.

I should give some background. My mom Magdelena Dempsey was a beautiful woman as well. My mom had a rough life coming up in Germany during the war. She came to the U.S when she was 17. Her and my Oma came and made a life for themselves. She met my dad and the rest is history. She had been hit by a car when I was 4 causing her to have severe brain damage as well as be a quadriplegic for the rest of her years.

My sweet Oma (granny) tried her best to keep her home and care for her but it was too hard. It was round the clock care. My da and my mom had divorced long before any of this, so it wasn’t expected for him to care for her.

My mom wound up passing 25 yrs later in a nursing home. It was a tragic life to say the least. From a war zone to a nursing home just doesn’t seem fair. Don’t misunderstand, my Da did bring us to see her on the regular and on the holidays. But it still was a very sad existence.

I remember as a little girl going to visit her and being terribly anxious. It was a lot to take in for a little girl and always left me sad having to leave her there.

I remember when I was 7 my Da told me and Trisha (moonie) that he met a lady he really liked and he wanted us to meet her.

The weekend he brought us to her house I wound up with fever and getting very sick. As soon as she saw I was sick she took over and mothered me. Gave me a cool bath to bring down my fever and fed me.

She was the most beautiful woman I’d ever seen. I was floored. Her apartment was beautiful and so clean you could eat off the floors. I knew this is how I wanted to be when I grew up.

My Da and Lee married, I was ecstatic!! They had a beautiful wedding. I was elated. I had a mom to take care of me again, and take care of me she did. She taught me all of the important things. I still remember the expressions she’d tell me. “Sandy you get more flies with honey than with vinegar”. And so on and so forth.

Even when I was a hellion as a teenager she loved me through it. I was quite the live wire, I got sassy with my Da a time or two but never dared cross that line with Lee. She was a strong mom and a strong woman. Just the person I knew I wanted to be like

She made sure I always looked nice and behaved like a lady. She is very much a lady. A Christian lady. We ( my sissy’s and me ) always say from Lee’s mouth to gods ear I still firmly believe this.

She taught me religion, I was raised Pentecostal. I know you’re all saying what? Alex curses like a sailor. This is true I do but I do believe strongly in God above. Without her teaching me religion I don’t know how I would have gotten through the past 14 yrs. Between MS and Bobs death if I didn’t have religion I surely wouldn’t have made it.

it’s been a hard go to say the least. I have to say when times get tough and I’m struggling, I can call her cry it out and feel better. When I talk to her it’s like going to church.

When I tell her how thankful I am she raised me, she’s so humble, she always says all the glory to God Sandy.

So today was a rough day my Neice Melissa told me grandma was rushed to the hospital because her BP was through the roof.

I have to admit I almost lost my shit but I remembered what she taught me. I pulled out my bible (which I don’t do nearly enough) and I prayed and cried. Thankfully she got clearance to go home. They added another BP Med to her other BP meds but as long as she’s ok that’s all that matters.

My Neice Melissa FaceTimed me so I could video chat with them. As soon as I saw my moms face I started crying and she started crying. I love her so much. It never fails anytime I talk to her I turn into a little girl again and that’s ok because she’s my mom.

I’ll end this entry with I’m grateful and glory to God she got through ok:)

Author: mswithmsalex

A funny gals take on the ups and downs of dealing with MS. The stuff people don't like to talk about. The hilarious situations I've found myself in. I hope this brings laughter to a disease that isn't very humorous

10 thoughts on “The person who made me the mother and wife I am today”

      1. I wanted to say so much more, but I’m precoffee…. It sounds like you have had some incredibly strong role models in your life, and you are doing a great job of setting a good example for many people

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      1. I can see you might be a little hard to handle sometimes, but all the other times you are amazing! Y’all are all lucky! Hell, I feel lucky that I am able to get to know you. Plus, I think it’s safe to say you will always be in my corner ♡♡

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