IBS-Tomorrow is another day

It started out rather rough and it didn’t get too much better. I really can’t complain for as crappy as I felt, my hubby did his level best to make me feel better. For that I’m incredibly thankful.

He tended the dogs all day, as I lay on the couch covered up. He cooked, cleaned up etc. I was trying desperately to get out of my funk. Didn’t happen. As I lay there I think.

I think about how trying it must be dealing with someone with a chronic illness. I mean I know I can be quite a handful on a good day ,much less a bad day.

In my defense I can be a character of sorts when I’m feeling human. Today wasn’t one of those days, but tomorrow is a new day and I’ll do my level best to turn my frown upside down. Keep it funny folks.

Irritable Bitch Syndrome-the other IBS

Irritable Bitch Syndrome-The other IBS

Today it was 27 degrees in Panama City Florida. What does this do to my MS you ask? It makes me suffer with IBS. I have IBS (irritable bitch syndrome) when I’m in severe pain. Well I woke like every other day to my pups alerting that they NEED to be fed, pooped and peed. The difference today was that I could barely move. Luckily my DH took care of the pups. He’s a Godsend!

Unbearable pain can really bring out the monster in me. I tend to snap at everyone when this happens. Luckily my family and bestie understand. Most people with MS get heat sensitivity (which the dr’s warn you about). Some of us lucky folks also get cold intolerance. I do much better in the heat than I do in the cold. With cold brings tremors to where it looks like my right hand has a mind of its own, and is wanting to party. It dances around like it’s drunk. I’ve had people look at me oddly when this happens, which makes me chuckle or get annoyed. It depends on my mood for the day. Today would be an IBS day, so people probably should steer clear.

Last summer I had this (tremor) happen in the frozen food aisle of Publix. I admit I got a little embarrassed, but got over it. The thing is I look healthy. I’m in fairly good shape, 9 out of 10 times I have my hair done and make up on and dress pretty damn snazzy. So I don’t “look” sick. With that people either think I’m drunk (because I stumble) or am on something or just crazy (I am a little lol).

For some unknown reason dr’s don’t seem to take note of cold sensitivity regarding MS. It’s a real thing, I promise you. My body hurts so bad its hard to have clothes on because my skin is on fire!!!! But it’s freezing, so it’s a must. Don’t make me even go on about spasms (it’s mind numbing) it’s like I have Charlie horses tightening throughout my body over and over.

The day is not a total loss though, my son David got me a gift certificate for the tanning bed near my house. So he took me tanning. I’ve noticed the tanning bed actually helps with the cold intolerance and spasms. I really appreciate that boy. He and his brother really look out for their old mimsy. While we’re on the way home from the tanning bed my right hand starts doing it’s dance. David see’s this and asks are you dancing? I died laughing and said no sonny boy it’s a tremor. In his defense I have been known to bust a move in the car a time or two.

So that’s how the day is going for this gal. But tomorrow is another day filled with possibilities and hopefully heat. I can’t wait for Spring!!!!!

The Poop Chronicles 12/31/17

I woke promptly at 6:30 Hamm was rustling around in his kennel, acting like he’s starving. I get up along with Lance ( he was going to do the deed for me). He’s a good man, definitely steps up to the plate when I’m not up to par. But today and yesterday I had the energy to feed my pups. All my pups serve a purpose. Hammbone Jenkins III (there wasn’t a I or II the kids named him) aka Hamm ( a mutt, I believe Rottie/pointer mix) is the guard dog. He would definitely bite if someone broke in. Mr. Wiggles (Olde English)is the 10/40 (back up) If Hamm gets upset, Wiggles is ready to come to his aid. Daisy Mae (my GSD) is my service dog. She still needs a boatload of training but I think she will work out well. Her and I have an amazing connection. This dog has sold me on GSD’s she is absolutely the smartest dog I’ve ever owned. Sampson (my American bulldog) he’s just a cuddle bug. I do think he’ll wind up being the guard dog when Hamm passes. He gives it hell when people are walking by but is still a pup and unsure of himself.

So I feed and walk them. SUCCESS they all poop and peed. I’m still awaiting the arrival of my poop aka mine and Lance’s baby. I drink my coffee, I feel a rumbling in my belly. Could it be? Is it finally time to push? I run to the bathroom. SUCCESS! It was beautiful! I did it and all on my own. No pain, no having to call Lance into the bathroom to help me birth this turd. Now I can go on with my day not feeling like I’m 10 months preggers. If this is how the New Year is going to start I’m all in!

I think back on the year behind and think about how blessed and lucky I am. I have so many things to be grateful for. Wonderful sons, a loving husband, a great friend, because yes I am down to one. My bestie Jan. She has been a constant in my life since 2006. I started working with her at the P.D.

I admit she rubbed me the wrong way at first. She was my trainer and who likes their trainer? I found her a bit abrasive at first. Then came to love her abrasive side. She’s a shoot from the hip kinda gal. Much like myself she is misunderstood because she shoots from the hip. I’ve come to love her and cherish her friendship. She’s been there through thick and thin. Saw me through the passing of Bob and then through a myriad of boyfriends before finding Lance. She’s absolutely seen me at my worst. Drinking too much and down in the dumps. Did she ever judge? Not that I’m aware of. I think she finds me entertaining. I am quite the squirrel at times, as you’ll see.

When we dispatched I’d walk into dispatch and tell her things like it’s going to be a shit day I hadn’t pooped in days, or I had a bowel movement I’m ready to conquer the world! I also used to joke about going out back to smoke a dube, I wasn’t really going to smoke pot in back of the P.D. I was going to smoke a cigarette. But always said it to get a chuckle out of her. I do admit when I would say it around supervisors (the Captain etc) I did it for shock value. I really enjoy seeing what people will say or do when I come out with outlandish things. It’s kind of like let’s throw this out there and see what happens. As you’ll see I do this often with Lance and the kids. Got to keep things poppin’.

So me and my sweetie are going to get this New Years Eve started. Shower and then decide what we may or may not do on this New Years Eve. It all depends on energy level. Sometimes I can go and do and sometimes I Peter out. But I pooped today so it’s off to a good start.26055689_10154949747681945_402990954911850032_n

Thoughts of Suicide 12/31/2017

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So my Sonny boy David came home after a long shift at work. He works at the Bay, a very nice restaurant located on Santa Rosa beach. They cater to the more affluent in the area. So sweet Days (as I like to call him) comes in. Lance and I were in bed attempting to sleep. This never works as planned as I toss and turn for a while. I hear him come in and am quick to my feet to visit with him. Trying to get as much David time as I can.

So we say hi, hug etc. I sit at the breakfast bar and ask him how his day went. He says “Mom, a guy I work with killed himself” I ask how old? He says I’m not sure late 20’s early 30’s I say damn that is terribly sad, as I think how devastated his poor family is over this loss the day before New Years Eve. David says” Well you know holidays sometimes get the better of people”. I tell him I hope he never feels that alone in life because he always has us, and we need him.

Then I thought about it, several months ago I was taking a medication I’ll just call it A. A disease modifying drug since this recent severe flare up I was having. The medication had me very out of sorts and just miserable about the person Ive become. I was sleeping constantly and barely strong enough to get from the couch to the bathroom. Life as I knew it was FUCKED!

During this time I became despondent. I woke up every morning wondering what fresh hell was going to take place. The pain was mind numbing. Dr’s push pain meds and theres only so much of that shit you can take before the body becomes tolerant and BOOM you wake up a full blown addict. I saw what it did to my sister’s life and refuse to go down that rabbit hole.

At this point 46, unable to work because I’m in severe pain and high from pain meds. I was starting to feel like a burden on my family. I could barely get out of bed. What use was I to any of them? Ive always been the doer. I worked, cleaned house, cooked etc. Now I was nothing but a lump on the couch.

I admit I was contemplating how long I could go on like this? I mean how long do people lay there doing nothing and bringing nothing to the table before checking out?

I thought long and hard how? The only thing I could think would be to just O.D, no pain etc. Just drift off to sleep and that would be it. Then I thought about my religious background. I was raised Pentecostal. We just don’t do suicide unless we want an eternity in hell. That and Ive always been of the belief that God calls us home when our job here was done. I’ve believed that since my former husband Bob passed of cancer. When he was sick he would say I just need to stay around until the boys are grown. While we would have given anything to have him around longer, his job was done and he wound up passing at home surrounded by all of us. When I go I would like the same send off. So with all of this in my head I think my job isn’t done here. I’m here for a reason. Lance and my boys need me, somebody needs me. I have to keep fighting to make my days count.

At this point I realize that I need to stop being ON. I need to scale it back and enjoy whatever I have left. When I do go, I don’t want to be remembered for being a high strung bitch. I want people to think of me and say wow what a dynamic lady.

I had a friend of mine from years ago (that Bob and I worked with)  Jerry tell me that I was very strong and an inspiration to people. Little did he know I needed to hear that, just at that moment.

So if I’m here for Lance, the boys, or maybe someone reading this blog Im doing something. I’m staying active. Not in the same sense I was, but I’m still of service to people around me.

How selfish would I be to take the easy way out and commit suicide when someone needs me? The boys and Lance give me purpose and I got something to say. So here I am still plugging along waiting on a cure.

When Shit Gets Real

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Today started with much of the same. Woke with raging headache so rather than lay in bed contemplating how shitty it is to wake in pain, I decided to get up and get going.

So I got up, ventured into the kitchen and immediately my pups were on alert. Mom’s up she needs to feed us. We need to piss and shit hurry……

It was the usual suspects Hamm crying because he’s starving, meanwhile he’s about 15 lbs overweight. Wiggles snorting and grunting because he’s an Olde English and they cant breath. Daisy my GSD soon to be service dog flailing about with cone on and cast on leg. About a month ago she ran out and hit a car. Yep, you read that right she hit a car breaking her left front leg. Then there is little Sampson the sweetest neediest American bulldog ever.

After feeding Miss Crazy (thats what I call Daisy since her run in with the car) I walked them all. SUCCESS everyone including Miss Crazy pooped and peed. At this point I realized I was envious of them. They all get fed, watered ,loved on and medical care when need be and the only thing that’s expected is to guard the house. I was also envious of the fact they all had a bowel movement. Its been four days for this gal and needless to say Im tired of being full of shit.

Is it too much to ask to be regular? I think not. They don’t tell you that when you get diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis. They don’t say hey just an FYI you may not be able to poop for days on end and may become impacted.

Luckily thus far I had not actually had to receive medical care for this issue. So there I am taking a laxative and hoping for the best and now I wait……

I do have to say when I do have a bowel movement its a major event in my house. Having to take a laxative is not like a normal bowel movement. As you know I hadn’t went in several days. Needless to say its days worth of shit. You know what happens when you have days upon days of poop collecting in your stomach? It becomes hard. Like big rocks having to move through a small tube in your intestine. When my tummy starts cramping its time to go. Luckily Im not alone in this my dear hubby Lance comes in the bathroom if it gets painful. Mind you I was not always a free shitter, I was always very private about such matters, but the pain is so intense it feels like I’m going to pass out. I’m ok with the DH being there after all he wasn’t present for my boys birth so what the hell, he can be there when I birth my turds. Its an experience if anything. If anything MS has been a humbling experience for me.